Whilst out walking the country lanes of Dorset yesterday afternoon, I was listening to a playlist of some of my favourite tracks. It was cold, it was also dry, a bit grey but not too windy. The music was upbeat and bringing back memories from the past, the sorts of things that came to mind always bring a smile to my face and made me wonder about what constitutes happiness.
On with my post. During my walk, I had to take the earphones out to cross a road and started to listen to the birds, hearing pheasants, rooks, a blackbird, some sparrows, tits and the first cuckoo of Spring 2021. A small win! I always love hearing that first cuckoo. The earlier I hear it the better, I now know spring warmth is on its way. Another smile on my walk, more happiness.
Further along, earphones back in, I happen to look over the bridge into the river to see a heron catch a small trout; I often see the Heron and the fish. Never have I seen them come together (not great for the fish). So out of the randomness of this walk, it’s another small win another smile. It’s strange what’s about when you have some time to look and whilst it’s not winning the lottery, these random actions of nature are all helpful in bringing balance to our own lives and thus happiness if you want it.
To cap it all, I finished my walk and got home, entering the front door as the first raindrops arrived (spring in the U.K.). As I had not taken a jacket, getting in the door before the downpour is a huge win and a laugh out loud moment.
Am I generally a lucky person? Well, I have not ever seen myself as particularly lucky. We have worked hard to achieve what we have in life; nothing has been handed to us, it’s been hard earned. However, on the flipside my health is generally good, I’ve never broken a bone and whilst having a few scrapes in car accidents in my younger days, never been seriously injured. So, whilst I don’t believe I’m lucky, I also don’t think I’m unlucky. What I do know is “Worrying won’t stop the bad stuff from happening, it just stops you from enjoying the good”
So, what is the point of my rumblings today? Well in a moment of clarity it’s become clear my own happiness is about seeking those small wins, looking for those little victories that put the everyday setbacks into context. I’m not belittling the difficulties other suffer, however think we all owe ourselves a moment of happiness every day, every hour, perhaps every minute. Happiness does not need to cost anything, we don’t have to travel or enjoy ourselves at the expense of others, we don’t even need to share what it is that makes us smile (however sharing happiness is so rewarding), we just need to put some effort in to look for our own moment, it’s clearly more difficult when times are hard but always possible if we put our minds to it.
This morning it’s due to rain, so I’m doing my admin, playing records and I know once all the paper shredding is complete and our files are up to date there will be a moment of happiness, I might even enjoy a glass of wine to celebrate. Just having the freedom to choose how I spend my time is a reason to be happy.
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